Dating For Ladies

Dating should be a very pleasant time. It is when you spend some time with a person who interests you, to see if you are suitable companions for the journey of life.

A long while ago, a wise old grandmother told me that dating is sweetest period of a girl's life. However, when I grew of age, the stories I hear from my friends, and perhaps some of my personal experiences did not reflect what it 'used to be'. Being the bookworm (the "Belle" in me), I embarked on an intense journey to demystify the subject.

While I do not list my observations as guarantee to a happy, long lasting relationship. It brings back a courtesy and politeness of the whole affair. It prevents you from being embarrassed or embarrassing others. You do not engaged in trashy fights, loud and public brawls similar situations of Jerry Springer. Dating is part of social relationships, and learning to date tastefully improves your other social relationships.

I do not have the liberty of unlimited pages to write everything I know, so I will try my best to keep them as short as possible. Please email me questions that you may have, or subscribe to my site.

Remember, if someone is not asking you out, then they don't want to be with you. Go about your business and trust God that you will meet other people whom genuinely like you and want to be with you. Maybe you're supposed to let go of so-and-so to make room for a better friend!

So now let's be a lady shall we and doing so, we will attract a fine gentleman. I couldn't have asked for better, my dear readers...

Tips For Dating Elegantly

Before you start dating, let's review these tips.

Look your best all the time.

Discard all clothing that is no flattering. Wear only those that looks good on you. Invest in terrific outfits. Buy a few classics and mix them in with cheaper items

That is why I stopped wearing jeans at the age of 20 and now only wear them when I really have to. I think it works to your advantage to look as pretty in a dress as possible.

Don't aspire to the unisex look. Buy feminine-looking clothing to wear. I take this principle to the extremes. One thing I dislike while skiing on the slopes is not knowing who is male or female. I do not understand why sportswear companies tend to just produce almost the same baggy cut for everyone and only some differentiate with baby colours. I refuse to wear any of those and decide to wear older designs because there is greater emphasis of a woman's waist.

Avoid tight fitting clothes that show too much flesh.

Treat yourself to a makeover sometimes. We can all look better than we do.

Pay attention to what colours are good for you and how the make up artist applies them.

Grow your hair long!

Use perfume. Have a signature scent.

Be feminine. Let him open the door. Don't tell sarcastic jokes. Don't be a loud knee-slapping, hysterically funny girl.

Be quiet and mysterious, act ladylike (practice, practice, practice). Cross your legs and smile.

Don't talk too much!

Wear black sheer pantyhose!

Don't sound cynical or depressed and tell long winded sad stories of your past.

Don't make anyone your Saviour or therapist.

Act happy, be joyful always.

Don't reveal everything about yourself yet. Take it slow. You should be a beautiful book, unfolding its fascinating history. There is always something captivating a secret.

Say thank you and please.

Eat right! Get in Shape! Come up with your own exercise regime!

Your Dating Attitude

Have an attitude, a sense of self-confidence and radiance that permeates your being from head to toe.

It's the way you smile. You light up the room.

It's the way you pause in between sentences (you don't babble on and on out of nervousness).

It's the way you listen. Attentively, of course.

It's the way you speak. Slowly and relaxed.

It's the way you stand. (straight with your shoulders back.)

Be optimistic. It is true that no one likes hanging out with people who are negative or complaining all the time.

On a date, never show that getting married is foremost on your mind (even if it is).

Sip slowly. Never slurp.

Keep conversations short and always end them first. Keep answers short and light!

If you are nervous at a party, hold a drink in your hand always to avoid fidgeting.

Keep moving about the party. Don't stand in a corner waiting for anyone.

Don't talk to a man first unless it occurs very naturally. If the conversation has an awkward lull, let it be and smile. Don't help him out. He has to 'make the effort'. (Trust me, he is not shy, just not really really interested.)

And so he asked for your number! You've got a date!

Click here to see tips on being on a date.

Click here to see what to do when he calls.

Click here to see what to do before the date

Click here to read about an Elegant Woman in a Relationship