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The things that speak … and how it affects your elegance

2020 is drawing to a close, and wow, what a year it has been. I’ve been through a lot and I’m sure you have too – and we are probably still going through some pretty extraordinary times. There have been many thoughts and things I had wished to write about, but many times I felt that I haven’t completely thought things through in a thorough manner. I would rather not write something in haste. Other times, I simply do not know how to broach a subject in these tense times, especially with emotions running high, I may come across the wrong way. It is so easy to jump the gun, to post a black square on my Instagram, to send links to everyone to support businesses from a certain people, or to air my views about politics, politicians, to criticise the behaviour of someone. I prefer to mull over things for a while. I want to take time to think independently, gather the facts, perhaps investigate other viewpoints to gain a different perspective. I guess that’s why I’ve always been somewhat of a researcher, and thus viola this blog came into fruition. On the contrary to what some may believe, […]

This was originally an Instagram post. I’ve expanded it here. “Reading is dreaming with your eyes open.” Except when you read non-fiction. ⁣ ⁣ Over the past few weeks, as if the self-quarantine semi-lockdown situation isn’t bad enough, the daily news reported has sent me into a slight depression. I’ve since realized it’s so easy to become negative and in a bad mood because of what I’ve “consumed” daily. So then, I’ve decided to put in extra effort to change my mind by focusing my thoughts & reading on more positive things, and it truly makes a difference. 💕 This reminds me of the bible verse. “Finally, brothers (or sisters), whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable- if anything is excellent or praiseworthy — think about such things.” Philippians 4:8 This is my self-quarantine/lockdown story… This is mine – share your quarantine stories in the comments below! Although I’m an introvert and mostly enjoy being at home, it is still isolating I can’t go out to a cafe and have a coffee, or see my friends or go to my usual ballet class. The routine at home gets very […]

There are so many things I want to say, I’ve considered using current events, the behaviour of some public figures to illustrate some concepts and give everyone food for thought. (Which I might but it is often after a long deliberation).⁣ ⁣ I prefer to tread carefully… actually, no, I rather act gently and quietly, so don’t be so quick to assume my opinions and feelings. ⁣ ⁣ Just wanted to post a food for thought / elegant concept for today (I’m tired of reading forceful messages on what I should or should not do).⁣ ⁣ Elegant concept: The way you do things is not always the only way to do them. Also, don’t assume what someone’s opinion/beliefs based on what they post on social media. ⁣ ⁣ It is rather rude to impose one’s opinions and way of doing things on others. In fact, those very actions are thinly-veiled threats and are violent and aggressive. ⁣ ⁣ That’s all for now, I’m going back to “Never complain, never explain.” ⁣ ⁣ I think I’ll post more of these elegant concepts in the coming days… more food for thought during home afternoon tea! 🌷🕊🧁🍰🍮☕️🍽 *This post was originally posted on […]

No doubt being elegant is about putting careful thought into everything around you, how you spend your time, dress up, decorate and definitely the stuff you buy and own. As I had written about choosing quality, and less is more, I’ll be the first to admit that I still struggle with this from time to time. Why? The simple reason is because of modern society. Strangely, we live in a world of modern conveniences supposedly trying to help us save time but we often find ourselves strapped for time. With “less” time, I make many purchases on impulse without researching carefully or even giving purposeful thought on whether I could make-do with something else and of course I don’t have time to declutter! And also, buying things has gotten a lot easier. I shop quite a bit on my phone. It is easy! When I’m doing boring things, I look to my phone for entertainment and shopping is some sort of entertainment. It is so easy to get lured in and get excited about something and click “BUY”! That results in careless, in-elegant purchases. Also when you have too many things, it is just hard to be elegant. There is […]

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