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Mar 24, 2010
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Correction
by: Kathleen

So sorry -- the last comment should have read "how NOT to act" when referring to your husband's brother.

Mar 24, 2010
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My Condolences
by: Kathleen

First, I must express my condolences for the loss of your husband. I hope that you and your children continue to deal with such a sad situation in such a graceful manner.

How sad that during a time of mourning, your husband's brother has chosen to put his own needs ahead of his twin's wishes. His actions remind me of a child's tantrum when not given a toy or a sweet, or being told "no."

It is very impressive how in the midst of your own grieving you have chosen to try to understand and appease the needs and wishes of others. Unfortunately, I cannot say that I would be able to exhibit such grace under fire.

I do like your idea of allowing the children to choose what to do with the cards. Of course, you are within your right to completely ignore them and any future communication from such an angry and hostile in-law until he exhibits remorse in some way (OK, feel free to ignore him even if he apologizes). Either way, the lessons that your children are learning from your actions will be invaluable in the future. They have been given some very strong examples of how to act (on your part) and how to act (on their uncle's).

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