Is it appropriate to ask Out of Town Guests to bring food?


(Columbia, South Carolina)

A friend invited me and some other friends to come into town for the horse races. Another girl is putting together the event (ie securing the tent for the event) but my friend is hosting me and two other girls.

The person that is putting together the event has contacted each of the out-of -own guest to bring food even though some of us are flying in for the race.

Knowing that my friend was bringing extra people with her, she already promised to bring the tables, table clothes, a meat dish, sides, and desert- as well as 2 types of punch to share.

Though I planned to bring something to be a polite guest, I felt put off by the hostess contacting me asking me to bring additional items. Am I wrong in that it was improper for her to do this? I have hosted her in my house before for an event over a weekend and never asked her to bring items for the event that she participated in. I have responded to her request and am bringing items but wanted to know the proper etiquette in a situation like this. Thanks!

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Apr 21, 2016
 out of town guests bringing food NEW
by: Anonymous

My question is about bringing food, but a bit different question. My friends and I like it when someone brings a food gift to add to the meal, buffet etc. but I have noticed that one of my relatives does not like this. She will not serve it, and asks the person who brought it to take it home (at the end of the meal/evening). She states that she ,nor anyone else in her home, would eat it...which is not always true. What to do in this case...be hurt, be polite and take it home...bring this person a different gift next time like a book? This person does not drink wine. Thanks
Dec 21, 2014
 Tacky hostess NEW
by: Anonymous

No, it is the hostess's responsibility to provide the food. It seems as though she is demanding an "entrance fee". She is being tacky and cheap.
If the guest ask "can I bring something" then you can say sure, a dessert, wine, but not get into specifics. The guests is just being generous.
Mar 26, 2012
 Grammar & Courtesy NEW
by: Anonymous

And typing in capital letters equates to SHOUTING. Just thought you'd like to know.
Mar 16, 2011
 Grammar
by: Anonymous

It's "A LOT" and not "ALOT." Just thought you should know!
May 08, 2010
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by: Eunice replies

It would be more considerate at her part to not to cause more difficulty for the out-of-towners since you are travelling already.

I'm not sure though how much effort she is putting in preparing for the event. If she is handling alot, you must forgive her, she probably is at wit's end.

Best is to not think about it further and look forward to the wonderful event.

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