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How to politely chastise a rude stranger?

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Jan 11, 2010
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Straight-Faced Answer
by: Anonymous

I've found that the most effect way to stop someone from picking on you (whatever your issue) is to simply answer. For instance, if the stranger asks, "Are you a midget?" They're wanting a shock - to blow out your candle to make their own look brighter. Simply look them in the eyes and say, "No, I'm not." Do not be rude back - they are expecting that. Do not tell them you are hurt - they often mean to hurt you. Do not nervously laugh - it only gratifies them more by being able to make you accept their insults. If they pry after you answer by saying something like, "Well, what are you?" Smile and say, "I'm a woman" or "I'm a lawyer" or whatever - don't addres the height issue because, to you, it is not an issue. Not allowing them to break your confidence or blow out your candle will only make them feel miserable and less likely to make such remarks to others. This is works for me.

Dec 18, 2009
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Reply Honestly
by: Anonymous

I am also very petite, 5'0" (I say five foot, none) LOL I have endured this all my life with remarks about being "picked before I was ripe," or asked, "what's it like DOWN there"? So, I understand the frustratin and humiliation you are feeling. My remark to the last stranger who commented on my height was this, "You know, I am hurt by your comment." and looked directly in his eyes and smiled (a sad smile). After a few seconds of shock, he profusely apologized and the folks standing around us applauded me. I felt vindicated and (hopefully) he learned a lesson.

Nov 13, 2009
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Polite chastisement
by: Emma

Perhaps you could simply smile and say, "oh, that's an interesting question/idea", and then ask them if they have any idea what the weather's like,or if they think the Cowboys will win the playoffs. They won't dare ask a second time, and if they do look at them, smile and then ignore them.

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Say,"Excuse me, what did you say?" If they repeat the question, shake your head and say," I'm so sorry,but I don't understand the question, would you please repeat it again? If they have the chutzpah to actually repeat it again,say "I am so sorry, I don't understand you." or, "beg your pardon?". They'll get the point soon enough.

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