Comments on: Having One Manner For All

By: Veronica

Veronica — Sun, 09 Sep 2018 16:37:04 +0000

Exactly. There’s no reason why the person could not have contacted the site privately via e-mail. It’s listed under contact.

By: Liag

Liag — Thu, 30 Aug 2018 13:35:38 +0000

Another perfect post from you! I recently experienced something that opened my eyes about why others may treat you differently based on money, position, etc. Unfortunately it was someone I respected. During the time I spent with them, I reminded myself that there is a lesson in the blessing. The blessing was everything I was learning despite how I was personally being treated. Even when criticized (publicly) and being compared to others, I never said a negative word. I discovered that this person suffered horrible abuse within their family. This made them bitter and always striving to “be better”. This person does everything they can to make themselves fit in with people whom they think are “better.” In my quietness and stillness, I saw the true person. Like you, I too knew some of the people they were trying to impress, personally. In fact, I attended social events with them during that time. Although I would never gossip with people we both know about my experience with them, someone who knew of them, observed that they lacked the very thing I was criticized for. Sadly, their criticism of me was a result of perceived vision. I never bothered to disprove or correct because they would/may-have discover on their own. They will never know because I shall never publicly reveal or display but, even despite knowing the origins of what could be their reasons for treating me differently, I have lost respect for them. I hold a high disregard for the ill treatment and lack of respect for others no matter their station in life. On another note: I have a world renowned, famous friend whom, I’ve observed, treats everyone like they are extremely special. True class!

By: Chastain Sarah

Chastain Sarah — Sun, 05 Aug 2018 19:56:33 +0000

Thank you so much!

By: elegantwoman.org

elegantwoman.org — Tue, 26 Jun 2018 04:50:12 +0000

Oh wow, thank you for sharing your story! Good on you 🙂

By: Marlene Miller

Marlene Miller — Sun, 24 Jun 2018 05:53:26 +0000

Well said. How you treat others who can do nothing for you is important. I learned long ago to treat the janitor the same way I treat the CEO.

By: Zerobear

Zerobear — Fri, 22 Jun 2018 13:44:35 +0000

Hello – I do not normally leave comments but this time I just had to! My husband and I run a small flight school and an airplane repair shop. And believe me – we get a wide overview of egos! But I SO totally agree with you – everyone has the right to be seen as a person, not the rung of a latter that someone is hoping to climb! Because I work in the office at OUR flight school/ shop facility, many of the people who come through believe that I am ” just the receptionist”. They very often get a shocking attitude adjustment when they discover that “the girl up front’ is who decides when and what they can fly and if they are qualified to rent an airplane. I’ve been a pilot for many years and as you said – a lot of the image that they are trying to project just makes them look unprofessional. Do I get “miffed” at them – NO – I simply check their credentials very, very throughly!!! Because I have already seen and heard that they have a “gift for exaggeration”. I throughly agree that one must always make an effort to honestly be themselves and treat everyone one meets with equal coustesy and respect. Every individual deserves that, wheather they can “help” you or not.

By: K

Thu, 21 Jun 2018 18:15:25 +0000

Elegance is overlooking minor things like that. This newsletter is sent to an online community of women who should be more gracious and KIND to another. Sometime “correcting” someone is a mask to say “See? I’m better than you.”……..”juz sayin'”

By: Praiseyahweh

Praiseyahweh — Wed, 20 Jun 2018 18:55:33 +0000

I used to have respect for you. However this post mostly just tells us to be dishonest with people about our true intentions. I understand giving people Grace and being kind however I would much rather an entrepreneur turned away soon as they realize they had no value rather than kissing my butt for the sake of ensuring an opportunity or future friendship if they should want to use me then. Your post feels more like a rant for becoming more politically correct rather than exposing the truth about our intentions as people. I’m going to be leaving your website and not returning at this point. shalom

By: elegantwoman.org

elegantwoman.org — Wed, 20 Jun 2018 09:40:21 +0000

You know, everyone’s different, it is hard to say what is acceptable for every specific situation not knowing the full details of background, culture, context etc. But don’t beat up yourself for this – I don’t even think it’s a mistake, rather, it seems to me that it is a preference. I felt the hosts should have said, “Please call me XXX” or whispered to their daughter to let you know discreetly.

No matter, let it go and if a similar situation comes up again, ask “How may I address you?” or the person who have invited you. Don’t worry about this. 🙂

By: elegantwoman.org

elegantwoman.org — Wed, 20 Jun 2018 09:36:29 +0000

Keep going and don’t be afraid of making mistakes – the important thing is that you are getting better! That is something to be proud of. 🙂