” How you look matters. Not in a petty, superficial way, but because how you look reflects how you feel, and how you feel affects how you perform in all areas of your life.”
– Kathy Phillips ”
How do you feel about your looks?
Being and feeling beautiful matters. Though not everyone is a born beauty, as Vogue Beauty
says, with effort and intelligence you can be beautiful from the inside out.
My personal story
I’ll be the first to admit that I don’t feel positive about my looks all the time. It’s not that I feel ugly, but I just don’t feel …beautiful, or rather, I did not feel that I looked my best.
Do I feel great? Not really, I feel …o-k-a-y.
I didn’t quite like looking at the photos of myself taken by friends at weddings, parties, dinners etc.
Then something happened, it was as though God renewed my youth.
He fills my life with good things, He renews my youth like the eagles – Psalms 103:5
I switched my skincare range, started dancing (and become fitter and more shapely as a result), learning about music and of course, reading good books – and …I’m almost embarrassed to say this, but it was as though I grew more beautiful (sounds impossible I know) over a short period!
I attributed that to being beautiful because of the way I feel.
But my point is, everyone’s journey to feeling beautiful is different. But the lesson here is that – we must make the effort to, because it affects you and the people around you!
Beholding beauty is the road of elegance
Outer beauty may be superficial to some. But do you know that elegance is birthed out of beholding beauty? This refers to beauty in all forms, the quaint Tuscan countryside, a rose, a sculpture, a symphony….
In order to be more beautiful or to grow in elegance and beauty, one needs to be inspired by beauty.
Learn it, recognize it, appreciate it, behold it.
There are days where beauty is not on my mind. As long as I look presentable, right? But then, I’ve realized, in my own way, putting the effort has more rewards. You feel better, you smile more confidently because you know you look good…plus you give the people around you, especially the men, something to smile about! You can’t feel more like a woman when the men appreciate your beauty. 🙂
There are many ways to ‘be inspired to look better’. Remember we are not looking for perfection here, but think of a way to enjoy the process.
How to Be Inspired for Beauty
I use all the above methods, but what works best for me is a few very beautiful friends that I meet from time to time. I wouldn’t say they are born naturally more beautiful but they’ve got the taste and a higher standard for personal beauty and grooming than most people. (I’m also not talking about the looks-obsessed types.) They’re more into beauty and fashion than I, so I’ll ask them for tips.
I find YouTube very helpful too, especially when I feel I need to change my make up style once in a while in order not to look dated.
These people and things inspires me to take a better care of myself and to at least be aware of current fashion trends. I also like injecting a few ‘trendy’ pieces to jazz up my classic wardrobe. I need change once in a while, even though I may be bordering off the ‘elegant side’.
We need that element of surprise and pop of change. Boredom kills inner and outer beauty!
Themed Year, Three Wishes
Oh by the way, Happy new year! And for all of you who are Asian like me, Happy Chinese New Year (in a couple of days)!
I hope this year has started well for you. I’ll like to encourage you to do a little fun exercise. If you could have one theme for this year…what would it be?
For example, this is the year of eating healthy. Maybe you want to eat better, and you will devote extra time, resources, bigger budget to that goal. Or this is the year of travel! You will make the extra effort and set aside whatever you need to do.
I will run a Facebook exercise soon …maybe a week after you get this newsletter!
I have a personal theme, and my church has ‘theme’ as well, where the senior pastor will share what is his impression from the Lord on the year for us – 2012 was Unceasing fruitfulness. 🙂
Also, it is customary for my church to ask us to write down three wishes (or prayer request). What do you want? They need not be the usual, good health, more finances etc, but it can be a secret dream or desire you have. I look forward to this every year!
What are your three wishes?
Write it down somewhere…and whisper it to the Heavens! 🙂
Alright, toodles for now…see you all on Facebook!
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