Do we have to invite a friend's new girlfriend?

by Linda
(NC)

We are getting married in six weeks. A couple we have known for several years recently went through a divorce and though things were amicable, he wanted the divorce while she did not. He has been dating a new woman, whom we have met twice at different social events but do not really know.

Are we required to invite the new girlfriend to come as our friend's date? The ex-wife is our predominant friend and as much as she puts on a brave face, I know it is very painful for her to watch her ex making out with another woman. (He really is inappropriate at times.) Is it required to allow any single adult guest to bring a date?

Thanks,
Linda

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Do we have to invite a friend's new girlfriend?

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Mar 26, 2013
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perfect wedding NEW
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Oct 22, 2012
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of course not NEW
by: Anonymous

of course not! Just foollow your mind!

Aug 16, 2012
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I DOn't think so NEW
by: Meredith

Hello Linda,

No, you are not required to invite your friend's new girlfriend or to give him a plus one. However, consistancy should be the rule here. If every guest is given a plus one it would be rude to disclude him. Generally everyone in a group is given a privilage, such as the bridal party all given plus ones but not other guests. My advice would be to give select people the privilage of a plus one, and that he not be one of them.

I hope you have a beautiful wedding and a happy marriage.

Sincerly,

Meredith

Oct 31, 2011
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"And Guest" not a requirement of etiquette
by: Dandelion

It's perfectly all right to invite single people to your wedding without an "and guest."

Aug 26, 2011
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Perfectly alright for him to come alone
by: Eunice

If your friend (the ex-husband) displays such poor manners towards his hurting ex-wife, I'd rather suggest you disallow him to bring his new beau.

However, it is your choice. You are not wrong to invite him only. It is your wedding afterall.

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