This article is about corsage etiquette and boutonnieres and their tradition, which is part of wedding planning etiquette. Who wears what? Read all about it here.
The Tradition of the Corsage
Traditionally, only mothers and grandmothers wore them. Now it is acceptable for the bride to give corsages to close female friends and relatives.
They can be close friends, someone you count as family. It could also be a relative like an aunt, a Godmother – someone whom you treat like a mother.
Giving corsages is seen as a gesture of appreciation.
How to Practice Good Corsage Etiquette
Your mother could be planning to wear an elegant suit. A corsage pinned to her jacket will look great.
If you are in charge of getting the corsages, check if there is a color-theme for the wedding. Better yet, ask the bride and the groom if there is any preference.
After knowing what color your corsages ideally should be, you then take into consideration the color and design of the bridesmaids’ outfits.
It is also etiquette to check with the bride if there is a preference of where the corsages should be worn. If it doesn’t matter, you and corsage wearers are free to wear them anywhere they like.
If you are the bride who is providing the corsages, decide before hand if it matters where they wear it.
You can also consider this: Does it matter to you if they decide not to wear it?
Does it matter if everyone wears their corsages in different places?
This eliminates a few issues, as I will elaborate below.
Problems of the lack of Corsage etiquette
Here are some real life situations (problems) that I’ve encountered: When some asked to wear corsages…some people
refuse to pin a corsage because ‘it will damage their dress’
refuse to wear them because they have itchy wrists, or easily irritable wrists
‘feel that flowers in their clothes/body/hair
makes them look stupid’
Tip of getting the right corsages
Get corsages in neutral colors, which makes matching them to outfits a breeze.
To make things easier, you could also
give them the freedom of wearing their corsages anywhere they like (or not).
For the Corsage Wearer
If you’re going to be wearing a corsage, it is good corsage etiquette to just be easy going and do whatever the bride wants.
The classic look