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" Oh, what a dear ravishing thing is the beginning of an Amour! " - Aphra Behn

Simple and Sweet - I hope that is what your Valentine's day was.

Happy (belated) Valentine's Day!

Hello everyone, how nice it is to 'talk' (or rather, write) to you all once again. It feels like a very long time...

I hope you had a very nice Valentine's day, whether or not you have that special someone. I remember putting flowers and balloons in my Mom's toilet when I was fifteen because I know she didn't have a husband to do that for her...

My Valentine's day was pretty ordinary, with my husband being back in the USA for work. Nevertheless, for all of you who follow my twitter, you'll have an idea of what I did on Valentine's day.

My Tweet:

I was feeling a little weathered down by life and decided to spend the day just enjoying myself. In the morning, I worked on a personal project which makes me feel like I'm in heaven (part of my dream-goals for 2012), then lounged around, rang my mother and went for ballet class looking pretty and had supper with my bestfriend. :)

Well, if you felt a little depressed or had missed out on Valentine's day, it's not too late to have a belated one!

Elegance Preferred No Matter What Men Say

Since Valentine's day was just a couple of days ago, I thought I'll write a little about a topic that I don't quite feel qualified to write about...haha.

ElegantWoman.org is really all about what's close to a woman's heart, there's no denying that men are an important part of our lives.

I have this theory - Men prefer elegance...no matter what they say. I'm not just referring to men who are interested romantically in you. I'm also talking about all kinds of relationships we have with the men in our lives, fathers, brothers, friends, the mail man, colleagues, the waiter etc.

Sometimes, in our efforts to impress, we think we have to dress in a certain way.

For instance:

• A sharp powersuit for an interview
• Sexy - to get the attention or to look 'hot', like so many men claim that is what they like, or when they refer to celebrities.
• Cool/Weird/Punkish - to show that you're an individual and different from other girls
• Designer-clad - to show that you're sophisticated.
  
  

I'm also not JUST referring to the way we dress.

It is also in the way we behave that may be far from elegant....

For instance:

• Boasting/Bragging a little too much - to show off how accomplished you are; or to gain approval
• Criticizing - to show how sophisticated your tastes are
• Insisting on paying the bill, going dutch
• Not letting men treat you like a lady: Telling them you don't like flowers, or to be sent home.
• Having too many opinions.
• Using vulgarities
  
  

Elegant Dating

Of course, I'm all for being the modern woman. Elegantwoman.org is not meant to be an old-fashioned blog! I definitely do not want to be stuck in the past. I'm just saying that we just need to tweak it a little to balance the different nature of men and women.

My theory is - in most cases, the elegant woman wins.



I don't mean you have to get dressed in the most feminine outfit, wear pearls and have perfectly coiffed hair - never run or never clap your hands in excitement....in order to gain that special respect and admiration only men can give ... that I believe all women secretly crave.

It is way they look at you. Elegance will cause a certain stirring in their heart to treat you the way you deserve.

Elegance, is pretty much a value, and in some sense an outlook of life.

I'm not talking about the deeper stuff for instance going so far to claim that being elegant will ensure successful relationships, but at least I'm pretty sure it will guarantee you a more pleasant experience. Men in general don't treat all women equal. Of course, the gentlemen do, but let's just say these breed of men are not mainstream! :)

I wrote some principles for elegant dating, but they are mainly based off notes from a book that many intellectuals dismiss as 'low-brow' - but I'm not here to pass judgement but here to tell you from experience, what works.