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Fascinating Womanhood Week Two

There is in this world no function more important than that of being charming – to shed joy around, to cast light upon dark days, to be the golden thread of our destiny and the very spirit of grace and harmony. Is not this to render a service? – Victor Hugo

Readings for this week: Chapters 4 – 6

Remember your key?

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You own the key to your own happiness!

Your Love Booklet

What loving responses did you get when practicising Fascinating Womanhood principles? Remember to record them. This love booklet is a beautiful thing to do, imagine what you’ll have when you look back ten years later! It helps us to be appreciative.

Assignment Two

Highlight the assignment part of the page, copy and paste it into a Word document or email.
Work through the answers.

When you are done, Copy and Paste it into the form below, then click SUBMIT.

Part 1: Accept Him

What are some your husband’s virtues?

What are some that annoy you?

If this makes you feel uneasy, throw them away after. Putting them on a list reminds us that this is who they are and we are not perfect ourselves. As we accept a fault, check it off the list.

Think if accepting your husband like having two sides of a valuable gold coin, one part virtues, one part fault. Remember we also have those two parts.

Do you do any of this?

  1. By letting him know his faults get on your nerves and are an imposition.
  2. By pointing out the harm in his faults and the advantage of improvements.
  3. By using other men as shining examples.
  4. By using yourself as an example.
  5. By telling him he needs to improve, to stay on the straight and narrow path.
  6. My letting him know he is missing out on happiness by being like he is.
  7. By letting him know he doesn’t measure up to what you deserve.
  8. By reading passages from books, to motivate him to improve.
  9. By suggesting he go on a self-improvement project to remake himself.

Do you do take away his freedom? Check which ones you struggle with.

  1. By demanding he do things your way.
  2. By making threats if he doesn’t.
  3. By physical force, such as standing in front of the door when he wants to go out.
  4. By being cool if he won’t do things your way.
  5. By dropping hints of what you expect.
  6. By urging him to do things your way.
  7. By making him feel obligated to improve.

Question & Answer

  1. List four reasons why we should not try to change men.
  2. Why do you think women try to change men? List some examples of methods women use.
  3. There are two cases where it is ‘acceptable’ to change him, list them.
  4. What should you do when you try to change him, in the above two cases?

Part 2: Appreciate Him

Refer to chapter 16 for some ideas.

List your husband’s

  • Character traits
  • Intellectual gifts
  • what he does for you:
  • What he has done in the past

Special Note: A special message from the author of Fascinating Womanhood. (abridged version)

Be Subtle: Don’t make the change over (when practicing F.W .principles) too obvious. Use a little restraint or you might look like you are play acting.

Men love F.W. but they want it to be a part of you – an unfolding of your true personality. The way to begin is to stop what you used to do, such as wounding his pride,
stealing his leadership, making him over, putting your children first. Such a beginning is a wonderful change. Then acquire the other virtues of F.W. a little at a time.
Apply with a subtle art, so he will know a change is taking place within you, rather than a new plan you are trying out, to see if it works.

Think of yourself having ‘rose-coloured’ glasses

These rose-coloured glasses will remind yourself to look for things to appreciate. You may see things others will not.

Special Assignment

Acceptance: After thinking of his better side, say something like this: “I am glad you are the kind of man you are. I can see that I have not understood you in the past
and have made many mistakes. But I am glad you have not allowed me to push you around. You have not been like putty in my hands,
but have had the courage of your convictions. Will you forgive me for not understanding you and let me prove to you that I’m happy
you are the kind of man you are and that I can be a wonderful wife.”

Appreciation: Express appreciation in the following:

  • Traits in his character
  • Intellectual gifts
  • What he does for you
  • What he has done in the past

Observe his reaction to the above assignments and write them in your love booklet!

P.s. If there is nothing to record in your love booklet, you are not living F.W. well enough yet, be sincere, keep trying and you will meet with success.

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